The art of indifference…
Life is a constant struggle. Sometimes things are going well, sometimes not so much….
But one thing is for sure, is that whether you make the most out of life is mostly dependent on how you react to tough situations.
Most of us are in constant communication and have to interact daily with a variety of different individuals with different variations of personality.
Whether it be at home with family or work with friends or colleagues — great communication skills are an underestimated art form that takes practice developing.
The art..
Good communication is not an art that we are always good at. Everyday most of us are guilty of some kind of miscommunication — it’s not something we do intentionally but it happens. And it happens all the time..
The only time you might come to realise there is or has been a miscommunication is when something bad happens and even then you may not think it was because of bad communication.
The good things is most miscommunication doesn't have any bad consequences.
Understanding that there can be a discrepancy or disconnect between what is said and what is understood can be a great way to sharpen our communication tools while providing us an excellent opportunity to practice the art of indifference.
Being indifferent is a skill. It’s having the ability or to be in a a state in which allows us to not take action on something that’s happening around us that’s not in our control..
Indifference can sound like a bad thing, but when used appropriately it can be a masterful weapon to use in your everyday interactions.
See, the opposite of indifference is caring. While it’s great to be a caring and loving person. Knowing when to be is just as important.
There is a time and place for warm and fuzzy and then there’s a time and place for stoicism.
It’s being able to not just be reactive to your environment but to take the time to reflect on what’s really going on and make choices according to your morals and nature.
Most of us live in a state of over analysing, overthinking and overreacting. Disturbed not by things but our view of things.
When we feel stressed, angry, or hurt, we tend to react impulsively. In that moment, our perceptions of the situation are altered. The emotional charge prevents us from seeing the situation for what it is.
At this point, our emotions and defenses are driving our behaviour but there comes a point in time when we have to put some space around our feelings…
You’re the driver of your train…
Indifference is a state which comes directly from the core, to understand what it means, you must first understanding who you are and to realise your own strengths and limitations…
You must understanding your emotions, state of being and having a great sense of what it means to belong.
Understanding this isn’t always about being ‘in control’ with yourself, but simply ‘being yourself’ in the present moment and in understanding that regardless of the situation, nothing is either ‘good’ or ‘bad’ — it’s simply ‘what is’ at the moment.
The truth is, indifference really is an art supper — selectively applied, it can be a great tool on facilitating a more freer, more expansive, more adventurous mode of living.
So next time that you feel like you’re being overwhelmed by daily life or your view of the things in it, try to take a step back. And ask yourself whether you’re in control of your day or if your day is in control of you.
Then, change accordingly.
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